Some unknown relationships #PuneDiaries

My world

It has been quite a long time that I have not posted anything on my blog. I was busy in getting adjusted in this new city as I told in my previous post. Living in Pune has been a charm and I have been enjoying my life these days. Life astonishes us every time when you expect something which should happen in your life. I am having very less friends in this city and Its like wake up in the morning, go to office, come back and sleep and then this cycle continues. I have been missing my friends who were there with me in Chennai and Coimbatore.

When I came to this city, the first person to whom I bonded very well was our PG (paying Guest) caretaker who was in his late 70’s. A very nice person who had a very firm voice. We used to talk every time I came from office or when I was leaving for office. He used to take care of me and made sure that I don’t miss my breakfast and dinner. His voice had the utter calmness of settling down every emotional turmoil and any sort of pressure. But as they say some relationship or conversation are too short but leave a very good impact on our mind. One day when I was returning from my office I got to hear the news that he died because of a cardiac arrest.It was quite shocking but i have to accept the fact as you can’t change something which is destined.

We don’t care about the people who are already there in our life and with whom we share a very good bond. These can be our parents, siblings or anyone in your life who cares about us and who’s presence is felt directly or indirectly in our life.  We are lost in taking care of those who sometimes don’t give a damn about our feelings, ideas, emotions or anything.

You daily come across these people who care about us but you might have not noticed at all. These people don’t even feel sad sometimes if we hurt their sentiments. So just open your eyes and look around yourself. You will definitely notice these people and from now start taking care of these people and respect their emotions.

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Living your life #CoimbatoreTales

My world

Life always take a u turn when you can’t imagine even in your dreams but the outcome is good sometimes. When I was transferred from Chennai to Coimbatore, I least expected the same fun and energy from this city compared to Chennai. But it has been a good experience and a completely new journey with a lot of memories.

The main thing I noticed coming to this city is the peace and silence that is super awesome. As soon as you reach this city the main thing that attracts you is the peace, calmness and silence. Living in Chennai was like I used to wake up early, get ready, rush to office, come back to my PG that too fully drenched with sweat and exhausted, have my dinner and then again go to sleep. I am following the same schedule in Coimbatore also but here the weather is so cool and good compared to Chennai, traffic is also not that bad, people are very helpful and since the city is small the distance between two places is also very small.

Life always teaches you a lesson that you often forget to interpret and in most cases people are late to find out why things turn up the other way at last. This has been a very crucial time of my life because I have found new friends that are an important part of my life now and even I have lost few friends. I have faced very awkward situations, have cried many times, smiled many times and a faced a lot of situations that had taught me a lot.

I was born in Bhopal, completed my schooling from Bhopal itself and now for the first time I am out of the city. I have been surrounded by my relatives, friends and family till the time  my graduation got completed. The experience of living independently alone in a completely new city, the problems and challenges you have to face when you can’t get the help of your relatives specifically your family were completely unknown to me.

Meanwhile life goes on and doesn’t wait for someone to adjust accordingly. You have to adjust  and whether you like it or not you have to face everything that comes in your path. It is often termed as a path that is full of ups and downs, you can fall while walking on this path but you have to stand and again continue walking on the same path irrespective of  the pain, happiness, agony or anything.

Enjoy Your life and Keep Smiling 🙂

Rejuvenate and Relax

My world

It has been around four months i am coming back to Bhopal after training and deployment. Going to your hometown is a awesome experience because you can move freely here and there around the city .Everything is known and you just love to visit those same places where many memories are attached. You feel refreshed and it helps in maintaining and stabilising the various things that disturb your mind.

Although i suffered from sunstroke, fever and dehydration after coming to Bhopal, I never wanted to get disturbed because of these things. So i just maintained calmness for some time and got the required energy which I seriously wanted.I was craving for a week holiday and now i am absolutely enjoying these holidays.

I sometimes wonder about the energy and calmness someone gets when he or she gets in touch with his family or go on a vacation.I would strongly recommend those who haven’t spent time with their family to go and rejuvenate themself with new positive energy by spending time with their family.

I asked my manager about a week extension since my reservation is not confirmed  and i want to get completely healed ,but as expected he rejected my request and instead scolded me.But i am satisfied with the way i spent this week and it was an awesome vacation

 

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Moving Forward #ChennaiDiaries

My world

So finally after waiting for 7 months i got my joining and now its time to enjoy the next phase of my life. I still remember the day I got my date intimation mail. It was 31st December 2015 and i was busy taking my tuition classes as usual when at around 1:30 my phone buzzed. I was so used to these unwanted message tones about marketing mails and a lot of things that I didn’t even checked my phone in those days.

I was delighted when I found that the mail was from the company in which I have been placed.And i shouted at the top of my voice when i read the subject line Date intimation mail.I was delighted and felt on the top of the world.Hearing my voice my parents came and asked about the whole thing and congratulated me. Then they asked “Kahan Jana hai ??”(Where you have to join).  I was so much busy that i even didn’t checked the joining location.

As soon as I opened my mail and read that I have to go to Chennai I was equally disappointed. The happiness, enthusiasm and joy all went away and I felt a bit sad and annoyed. When you are from north and you have to go to South India specifically Chennai then people around you specifically your parents will become so tensed as if you are sent to a Indo Pak War front.

I was tensed but kept myself calm and answered every query which my parents asked so that they are assured that I will be happy staying in Chennai. I logged in to Facebook to check how many people are joining with me so that I can get help from them and plan my journey nicely to Chennai.

But after scrolling and reading each and every Facebook post that appeared on my Laptop i was shocked that only two of my friends would be joining the company with me on the same day.I called my sister the same instance and told everything to her. She is such a charm that after chatting with her i was feeling so relaxed that i forgot everything regarding Chennai and focused myself to first plan my journey as a new life and a new city welcomes me with open hands.

The next two days when so fast that i didn’t even realized when time passed. Tension and fear has already started creeping in my mind the moment i read my date intimation mail. I had never stayed alone before and this will be the first time i have to stay  away from my parents it was haunting me like anything.I used to sleep just for 4 hours and  used to stay awake the whole night lost in those thoughts.

The next morning my neighbor Honey came to my house. It was his regular habit to wake me up in the morning and greet Good morning ! He came and hugged me unaware of the fact that I will not be there to meet him after few days. I love the innocence of kids, how they are so tender,cute and how there touch acts as a wonderful medicine to calm every cyclone in your mind that is making your uncomfortable and sad.

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Honey my neighbour

I went for shopping in the evening so as to buy the necessary things i will need in Chennai as it will take time to adapt to a new environment and a new city. I noticed a sudden change in my mom’s behavior as she hasn’t scolded me since last two days. It was her regular habit but now she was pampering me with lots of love and care.

We went to Bhopal Utsav Mela for shopping and after shopping for more than 3 hours we decided to come back home. As soon as i started walking back to the parking lot my mom called me and said ‘Wait !! we should eat something “. We went to food zone and sat down to eat Aloo Paratha (My Favourite 🙂 ) as my parents knew this thing and they want to make me happy so they  joined me as well. We sat there for quite a long time revised each and every moment of my school and college life.

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Its time to celebrate !!

Opinion

Happiness is something that cannot be defined , can’t be created , even can’t be destroyed and it cannot be transformed as well. So why don’t we share happiness ?? Sharing amplifies the overall effect of it and is the only way by which we can pass on this amazing thing created by god to other and can make the life of people around you more beautiful and joyful.

As I write this post celebration have just started in my neighbour’s house because it’s the birthday of one of the kid living in that house. It can be easily seen from my room’s window how happy people are because there faces are twinkling with happiness.Its midnight and as the calmness of the night is increasing a deep sense of satisfaction is increasing in my mind.

So what is main reason of this satisfaction?? Why we feel happy when we also celebrate with lots of people all around ?? Is there anything special in celebrating with people ?? What is the difference or does it really matters at all ??
When you celebrate any occasion with a group or with anyone else.You share your happiness with the person or a group of person that time, in return that person also amplifies your happiness by adding his share of happiness with your share and transfers it to others and others follow the same thing and cycle goes on .

Happiness is related to positive energy. When there is a lot of negativity all around in the world we need a lot of positive energy that helps to rejuvenate our body and mind to perform better in our life. Happiness provides that positive energy and that is why it is often related to better living.

It really matters when you celebrate with others because the more you share your happiness the more it will be ‘Amplified’. And there is nothing wrong to be happy and to think how we can perform better in life.

So the next time when you have to celebrate a special occasion or you have to go to a party,gathering or anywhere else don’t hesitate because there is nothing wrong to share your happiness with lots of people whom you wish can also enjoy and celebrate and also don’t even hesitate to be part of someone’s celebration because by being the part of it you will feel happier and memories that can be cherished will be created.

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The magic mail

My world

For the past 5 months I am waiting for a magic mail….Yes ,a magic mail because I am really fixed just because I have not got that magic mail. And the magic mail I am talking about is nothing but the mail regarding my joining. I was placed last year but after completing my graduation I have not got my joining mail. I am not in a hurry, even I am not feeling tensed that whether I will receive my joining or not .But just because of that mail I have to answer all sorts of queries and everything that compels my mind to feel annoyed.

I sometimes feel sad about the situation of every engineering graduate who is placed but is still waiting for joining. Even I laugh sometimes listening to the questions asked by the people that are totally ridiculous. My relative asked me one day “Bhaiya aapki exact date and exact time of joining aap bata sakte ho ??” to which I replied “I don’t know “. I am not god or a magician or anything who can predict such things because things totally depend on your luck.

I don’t know why people peep into the life of others. I am not saying just because I feel weird answering thousand queries every week about my joining date but If you look around yourself you will find many such people keeping a eye on you and your activities.These people are the first one who won’t help you at the time of crisis and will just say “Log kya kahenge ??” the most used sentence in the history of Indian Society.They are even sometimes the most scared ones too.

Its good to keep an eye about everything happening around you but peeping unnecessarily is not good at all. You should know everything about the activities related to a person or anything that can be easily seen but queries that disrupts the normal life of a person needs to be avoided.He should not feel like a slave or a thief that is guarded by the police.

The only solution to this problem is to just ignore…..Ya Ignore every such query with a beautiful smile….and when you are bound to answers just respond with simple answers like “I don’t know”,”God knows” and such short and simple answers. Relax because you are not the only one who is facing such problem but each and every person is facing such problem in this world.

Just relax and enjoy your life because people won’t discontinue this habit of peeping into the life of others living around them. Its your cool attitude in answering every query that truly matters.

Let’s make it simple

Things around me

It’s around midnight when i am writing this post and still i can hear various catchy party songs like Bum Bum Bum,Dj waley Babu, Chitiyan kalaiyan or many unrecognized Garba Songs.I usually have a habit of scribbling a short or smaller version of my blog post before ‘expanding’ it and there after posting it on my blog. Since Navratri is going on the usual bhajans and different types of songs which i previously mentioned say goodbye and good morning to me since there are lot of pandals around my housing society and even we have one in our society park.There are lot of sound amplifiers being placed too and there noise has created the whole environment in my house absolutely messy.

Today i woke up because of a very noisy music system which is placed quite close to my house and even now also i can hear a song being placed mixed by a local disk jockey who add extra promotional yo yo , brazil and Dj <dj name> in between there song changing the whole avatar of the song to something that is unrecognizable at times too.I am not complaining about this thing but yes i have lot of people living in my neighbourhood who will feel uncomfortable because of these sound boxes.I have a very old uncle, a new very small kid who has recently started walking and is still learning to balance himself,lots of student who have to attend their school and many people who get affected because of these sound systems.

As new technologies have started entering our world new gadgets are available and new ways of dominating on the other people are divised by the human beings. Out of such things sound system with additional output are a new thing to such category of things used for showing off or dominance on the other person.There is more and more investment being generated all thanks to the fear of god in the minds of the people living in the society.

I started living in the house in which i am currently living 10 years before and in these 10 years i have seen a lot of changes, some changes are good but some are really bad. 10 years before some construction workers started the tradition of placing lord Ganesha idols in the society park and which is then followed by the current society. I still remember the devotion of those construction workers and the calmness and peace i got in those 10 days of the lord Ganesha festival. There was small pandal, a small idol and no any other thing such as sound system, lighting etc was being done. The pandal was decorated using craft paper being brought by the local shop situated near our society.There was daily aarti, bhajans and different rituals were performed by those workers early in the morning and after they all completed there work. They collected money and never asked for any help by the residents of the society.

doorga-puja-gurgaonNowadays there are very big pandals, noisy sound systems being placed and a lot of stuff for making the pandal the best among the total pandals being placed by the people in the nearby areas or the whole city.But do these physical things like the dimensions of the pandal, the number of sound boxes being placed usually provide that inner peace we require to be mentally strong and physically fit ??

Spirituality is related to our mind or in other words religion is something that connects with the soul and worshipping god is mainly a path or a manner of providing mental stillness and calmness specifically peace to  a person.It doesn’t depends on how many candles you have burned,how many timesyou have prayed,how many gods you worship,which things you use in worshipping god etc.It depends on your devotion,concentration power,believe and the power you have in yourself. Its a connection of your soul with the various elements of nature,your body and a lot of things that help in making our life more beautiful.

Am i rich ??

Things around me

I have been teaching since last 3 years and it has been an awesome experience because teaching has provided me immense satisfaction and has taught me a lot of things. I am now more patient and have learned how to do something with dedication,hard work and a focussed attitude. It has also helped me in exploring the various forms of people and lifestyle related to them.

Life is an amazing journey and when you observe things around you very closely you can easily learn a lot of new things in your life . It has been few months when i along with my friends have been teaching underprivileged children in Bhopal and helping them in their studies so that they can perform better in life. I met a kid studying in 4th standard whom I taught Maths and Science and even I got a opportunity to closely observe his life. He used to live in small house made up of bricks ,aluminium sheets and grass in the nearby slum areas when I for the first time met his mother , father and her sister and saw what poverty is and how poor people actually live in our country.Despite of many schemes and funds being released by the government there seems no change in the life of these people.

I asked him that what you want to become ? He said “An Engineer !!” I just because of curiosity seeing his affection towards engineering asked “Why ?” He responded with a lovely smile “Bhaiya main apni life change karna chahta hu …aur mujhe naye ghar banane main maja aata hai(I want to bring a change in my life and I love to make new house) I was stunned and literally appreciated his dreams and passion. His mother said he studies on his own and at night when there is no proper environment to study in this house and the surrounding areas he goes to the nearby bridge and studies there utilizing the street light for his studies. I was really shocked seeing the devotion of that kid. Even I met a lot of kids like the one I previously mentioned and all of them expressed the same thing or have the same dreams.

After my graduation I started teaching a Kid studying in 4th standard in a very popular school promoted by a Media company in my city. I could easily saw the difference between the two kids the one who lived in the slum and this kid who reside in this over sized bungalow that was usually left empty because the kid’s parent were not in town most of the time or were not at all free. They were busy in their business and partying with family,friends and business partners. He has all sort of distractions like a smartphone(which he didn’t knew to operate), A LED TV in his room with a DTH connection, A Macbook pro laptop with a very fast internet connection, A driver with a modern SUV vehicle in his service and lots of things.

The kid from the rich background don’t know what dreams are and how we work day and night to turn them into reality. He just know that he has to maintain that standard that makes him class apart from more than half of the population in this world that calls him a rich guy.He know that he don’t have to work because he will be the only successor after his father leaves the business and handover all the office and business work to him.

I have to stop teaching that kid because he shifted to other place and I got busy in my work but that incident when recalled seriously surprises me about the attitude of the people towards there kids. Even a different view of this society in which we live made me uncomfortable seeing that the society is now divided on the basis of the economic status of people or their financial capability of spending money in showing their standard of living. The dedication of guy living in the slum was just awesome and just bow down and salute his hard work.

I have no issues regarding the financial status of the two kids but everyone needs to be dedicated liked the poor kid living in the slum areas.Parents needs to understand that a child needs your love and affection.He is left alone in this brutal world when his parents, the one who bought him in this world don’t support him in living a happy life and to fulfill his dreams.If you are the one start from now because its not late support your child and stand firmly in each and every ups and down he faces in his life. Teach him from your experiences that a human is the best creation by god and god has sent him in this world to work for humanity. He just needs to be happy,work hard and enjoy your life.

Its so good to teach someone #MissingKASHTI #Education #teaching #Happiness

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Some unexplored pathways

Things around me

Few days before i got my provisional degree from the university which says i am an engineer now. My dad was also present in the college admin building when i collected the degree and other related documents and i could easily see a twinkle in his eyes when he saw my degree. He read the whole contents of it and then patted my back twice in sheer happiness and thanked god.

Four years back when i joined the engineering college , i could easily spot those people who were fixed yet exploring the various aspects of their personality in finding the correct path for pursuing their career. And after four years i can still find those people who are confused that they should pursue engineering or not and some where also there who even don’t have interest in engineering but were forcibly asked to choose engineering as their career because some belong to very poor background and their family has sold or mortgaged their ancestral property so that their child can fulfill their dreams and some people were also there who have opted for engineering because they were still confused what to do so after seeing their  verma ji or sharma ji ka beta’s(son’s) salary working in an multinational IT Company they decided that their son/daughter will become a computer engineer .

In India the first question that comes into a parent’s mind or anyone is as usual loog kya kahenge ? and believe me this question has destroyed the life of many people in this country where more than 80 % people take their decisions keeping in mind the reaction of people living in the society. Believe me its slowly becoming a culture in India that people don’t think a bit different and follow the crowd that is headed by someone who himself even don’t  know sometimes what to do in his life in the near future.

By the way if i move around and ask people about the various professions that an individual can pursue in their life .People really know only very few  professions that can be easily counted on fingers and the most popular is Engineering . If someone is an engineer in my area or mainly in India he is seen like a rockstar and even parent’s think that he will earn more than the richest man living in their society or village. Even his mother think that he will receive more dowry if her son is working in a IT company like Infosys, TCS or Wipro.

But learn to respect your child’s decision because its his life and you would be very happy when he will love his profession in the future.Support your child’s decision because when someone completes his school he is mentally and physically strong to complete his future studies he just need your support either financially or by any means so that he gets the required inner strength to move forward and be a successful human. Teach your child the various lessons of life which are not taught by anyone in this world and various things  you have learned by your experiences which is just priceless for him .Let him explore the unexplored pathways by you and follow his dream in his life. It will provide him a great sense of happiness and he will be one of the most happiest person in this world

Moving on after graduation

My world

So finally i am engineer and i really feel on top of the world after completing my graduation. It has been an amazing journey and i have totally enjoyed my college life.But after graduation life is full of enjoyment and happiness as there are no books, no studies,no late night study , no assignments and tutorials and no strict rules regarding studies by our parents. We are free to follow our own rules and enjoy life to the fullest.

But yes after graduation there are a lot of things that sometimes elate you or dishearten you on various specific moments. The most popular of them are your neighbors asking Beta graduation ke baad kya soocha hai ?? (What are your plans after graduation my child ??) This question is not weird but since i have been placed in a company the only question that is annoying me nowadays is when is your joining ?? I don’t know why people are so interested in these things. Apart from this the regular distracting personalities to whom my life is compared you might have heard in hindi movies like sharmaji ka beta, verma ji ka beta…these guys have not left a single stone upturned for adding beautiful distraction elements in my life lol 😛   

Apart from this i even found my some friends who want some extra attention !! I am unable to get this thing that friendship doesn’t require any specific acknowledgment that one cares for other but if there is some space for such acknowledgement then its not friendship. You have to be connected but its not like that we have to always say that i trust you , i believe you, you are my friend etc. Its weird because a true friend is the only person that doesn’t need any specific permission for peeping in into your life, he is always available whenever you want and its a bond that is strengthen using amazing additional elements of trust , believe and understanding.

I have been watching TV and surfing the internet these days like i am on a mission to create a world record and ACP Pradyuman’s regular order Daya is darwaze ko todd do is still echoing in my mind. I have been saturated watching TV and internet because all my friends are now in their respective cities ie:they have shifted back to their respective houses back to their hometown and i am left alone. Even my two sisters both are working and both are even not living in my hometown. I have been a busy guy when i was studying engineering because i was so engrossed in my work, family and friends but eventually this sudden emptiness is killing me very badly nowadays.

In the pic my best friends Narayan and Mansi

But you have to move on everytime you feel a bit sad or depressed. Its just a timespan which according to me i need to spend without thinking so much because a bright and a happy future is soon gonna knock my door. After some days i have to enter that corporate world about which i have heard a lot of things. I am about to receive that joining mail which i have been waiting since quite a long time. So i just need to move on and enjoy these vacations because life is like a tender sapling which has to face every storm and bright shiny weather and beautiful aspects of nature that allows him to grow into a strong and firm tree.