The magic mail

For the past 5 months I am waiting for a magic mail….Yes ,a magic mail because I am really fixed just because I have not got that magic mail. And the magic mail I am talking about is nothing but the mail regarding my joining. I was placed last year but after completing my graduation I have not got my joining mail. I am not in a hurry, even I am not feeling tensed that whether I will receive my joining or not .But just because of that mail I have to answer all sorts of queries and everything that compels my mind to feel annoyed.

I sometimes feel sad about the situation of every engineering graduate who is placed but is still waiting for joining. Even I laugh sometimes listening to the questions asked by the people that are totally ridiculous. My relative asked me one day “Bhaiya aapki exact date and exact time of joining aap bata sakte ho ??” to which I replied “I don’t know “. I am not god or a magician or anything who can predict such things because things totally depend on your luck.

I don’t know why people peep into the life of others. I am not saying just because I feel weird answering thousand queries every week about my joining date but If you look around yourself you will find many such people keeping a eye on you and your activities.These people are the first one who won’t help you at the time of crisis and will just say “Log kya kahenge ??” the most used sentence in the history of Indian Society.They are even sometimes the most scared ones too.

Its good to keep an eye about everything happening around you but peeping unnecessarily is not good at all. You should know everything about the activities related to a person or anything that can be easily seen but queries that disrupts the normal life of a person needs to be avoided.He should not feel like a slave or a thief that is guarded by the police.

The only solution to this problem is to just ignore…..Ya Ignore every such query with a beautiful smile….and when you are bound to answers just respond with simple answers like “I don’t know”,”God knows” and such short and simple answers. Relax because you are not the only one who is facing such problem but each and every person is facing such problem in this world.

Just relax and enjoy your life because people won’t discontinue this habit of peeping into the life of others living around them. Its your cool attitude in answering every query that truly matters.

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Let’s make it simple

It’s around midnight when i am writing this post and still i can hear various catchy party songs like Bum Bum Bum,Dj waley Babu, Chitiyan kalaiyan or many unrecognized Garba Songs.I usually have a habit of scribbling a short or smaller version of my blog post before ‘expanding’ it and there after posting it on my blog. Since Navratri is going on the usual bhajans and different types of songs which i previously mentioned say goodbye and good morning to me since there are lot of pandals around my housing society and even we have one in our society park.There are lot of sound amplifiers being placed too and there noise has created the whole environment in my house absolutely messy.

Today i woke up because of a very noisy music system which is placed quite close to my house and even now also i can hear a song being placed mixed by a local disk jockey who add extra promotional yo yo , brazil and Dj <dj name> in between there song changing the whole avatar of the song to something that is unrecognizable at times too.I am not complaining about this thing but yes i have lot of people living in my neighbourhood who will feel uncomfortable because of these sound boxes.I have a very old uncle, a new very small kid who has recently started walking and is still learning to balance himself,lots of student who have to attend their school and many people who get affected because of these sound systems.

As new technologies have started entering our world new gadgets are available and new ways of dominating on the other people are divised by the human beings. Out of such things sound system with additional output are a new thing to such category of things used for showing off or dominance on the other person.There is more and more investment being generated all thanks to the fear of god in the minds of the people living in the society.

I started living in the house in which i am currently living 10 years before and in these 10 years i have seen a lot of changes, some changes are good but some are really bad. 10 years before some construction workers started the tradition of placing lord Ganesha idols in the society park and which is then followed by the current society. I still remember the devotion of those construction workers and the calmness and peace i got in those 10 days of the lord Ganesha festival. There was small pandal, a small idol and no any other thing such as sound system, lighting etc was being done. The pandal was decorated using craft paper being brought by the local shop situated near our society.There was daily aarti, bhajans and different rituals were performed by those workers early in the morning and after they all completed there work. They collected money and never asked for any help by the residents of the society.

doorga-puja-gurgaonNowadays there are very big pandals, noisy sound systems being placed and a lot of stuff for making the pandal the best among the total pandals being placed by the people in the nearby areas or the whole city.But do these physical things like the dimensions of the pandal, the number of sound boxes being placed usually provide that inner peace we require to be mentally strong and physically fit ??

Spirituality is related to our mind or in other words religion is something that connects with the soul and worshipping god is mainly a path or a manner of providing mental stillness and calmness specifically peace to  a person.It doesn’t depends on how many candles you have burned,how many timesyou have prayed,how many gods you worship,which things you use in worshipping god etc.It depends on your devotion,concentration power,believe and the power you have in yourself. Its a connection of your soul with the various elements of nature,your body and a lot of things that help in making our life more beautiful.

Am i rich ??

I have been teaching since last 3 years and it has been an awesome experience because teaching has provided me immense satisfaction and has taught me a lot of things. I am now more patient and have learned how to do something with dedication,hard work and a focussed attitude. It has also helped me in exploring the various forms of people and lifestyle related to them.

Life is an amazing journey and when you observe things around you very closely you can easily learn a lot of new things in your life . It has been few months when i along with my friends have been teaching underprivileged children in Bhopal and helping them in their studies so that they can perform better in life. I met a kid studying in 4th standard whom I taught Maths and Science and even I got a opportunity to closely observe his life. He used to live in small house made up of bricks ,aluminium sheets and grass in the nearby slum areas when I for the first time met his mother , father and her sister and saw what poverty is and how poor people actually live in our country.Despite of many schemes and funds being released by the government there seems no change in the life of these people.

I asked him that what you want to become ? He said “An Engineer !!” I just because of curiosity seeing his affection towards engineering asked “Why ?” He responded with a lovely smile “Bhaiya main apni life change karna chahta hu …aur mujhe naye ghar banane main maja aata hai(I want to bring a change in my life and I love to make new house) I was stunned and literally appreciated his dreams and passion. His mother said he studies on his own and at night when there is no proper environment to study in this house and the surrounding areas he goes to the nearby bridge and studies there utilizing the street light for his studies. I was really shocked seeing the devotion of that kid. Even I met a lot of kids like the one I previously mentioned and all of them expressed the same thing or have the same dreams.

After my graduation I started teaching a Kid studying in 4th standard in a very popular school promoted by a Media company in my city. I could easily saw the difference between the two kids the one who lived in the slum and this kid who reside in this over sized bungalow that was usually left empty because the kid’s parent were not in town most of the time or were not at all free. They were busy in their business and partying with family,friends and business partners. He has all sort of distractions like a smartphone(which he didn’t knew to operate), A LED TV in his room with a DTH connection, A Macbook pro laptop with a very fast internet connection, A driver with a modern SUV vehicle in his service and lots of things.

The kid from the rich background don’t know what dreams are and how we work day and night to turn them into reality. He just know that he has to maintain that standard that makes him class apart from more than half of the population in this world that calls him a rich guy.He know that he don’t have to work because he will be the only successor after his father leaves the business and handover all the office and business work to him.

I have to stop teaching that kid because he shifted to other place and I got busy in my work but that incident when recalled seriously surprises me about the attitude of the people towards there kids. Even a different view of this society in which we live made me uncomfortable seeing that the society is now divided on the basis of the economic status of people or their financial capability of spending money in showing their standard of living. The dedication of guy living in the slum was just awesome and just bow down and salute his hard work.

I have no issues regarding the financial status of the two kids but everyone needs to be dedicated liked the poor kid living in the slum areas.Parents needs to understand that a child needs your love and affection.He is left alone in this brutal world when his parents, the one who bought him in this world don’t support him in living a happy life and to fulfill his dreams.If you are the one start from now because its not late support your child and stand firmly in each and every ups and down he faces in his life. Teach him from your experiences that a human is the best creation by god and god has sent him in this world to work for humanity. He just needs to be happy,work hard and enjoy your life.

Its so good to teach someone #MissingKASHTI #Education #teaching #Happiness

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PS:Sharing a pic with one of those kid i taught when i was working for KASHTI

Some unexplored pathways

Few days before i got my provisional degree from the university which says i am an engineer now. My dad was also present in the college admin building when i collected the degree and other related documents and i could easily see a twinkle in his eyes when he saw my degree. He read the whole contents of it and then patted my back twice in sheer happiness and thanked god.

Four years back when i joined the engineering college , i could easily spot those people who were fixed yet exploring the various aspects of their personality in finding the correct path for pursuing their career. And after four years i can still find those people who are confused that they should pursue engineering or not and some where also there who even don’t have interest in engineering but were forcibly asked to choose engineering as their career because some belong to very poor background and their family has sold or mortgaged their ancestral property so that their child can fulfill their dreams and some people were also there who have opted for engineering because they were still confused what to do so after seeing their  verma ji or sharma ji ka beta’s(son’s) salary working in an multinational IT Company they decided that their son/daughter will become a computer engineer .

In India the first question that comes into a parent’s mind or anyone is as usual loog kya kahenge ? and believe me this question has destroyed the life of many people in this country where more than 80 % people take their decisions keeping in mind the reaction of people living in the society. Believe me its slowly becoming a culture in India that people don’t think a bit different and follow the crowd that is headed by someone who himself even don’t  know sometimes what to do in his life in the near future.

By the way if i move around and ask people about the various professions that an individual can pursue in their life .People really know only very few  professions that can be easily counted on fingers and the most popular is Engineering . If someone is an engineer in my area or mainly in India he is seen like a rockstar and even parent’s think that he will earn more than the richest man living in their society or village. Even his mother think that he will receive more dowry if her son is working in a IT company like Infosys, TCS or Wipro.

But learn to respect your child’s decision because its his life and you would be very happy when he will love his profession in the future.Support your child’s decision because when someone completes his school he is mentally and physically strong to complete his future studies he just need your support either financially or by any means so that he gets the required inner strength to move forward and be a successful human. Teach your child the various lessons of life which are not taught by anyone in this world and various things  you have learned by your experiences which is just priceless for him .Let him explore the unexplored pathways by you and follow his dream in his life. It will provide him a great sense of happiness and he will be one of the most happiest person in this world

Moving on after graduation

So finally i am engineer and i really feel on top of the world after completing my graduation. It has been an amazing journey and i have totally enjoyed my college life.But after graduation life is full of enjoyment and happiness as there are no books, no studies,no late night study , no assignments and tutorials and no strict rules regarding studies by our parents. We are free to follow our own rules and enjoy life to the fullest.

But yes after graduation there are a lot of things that sometimes elate you or dishearten you on various specific moments. The most popular of them are your neighbors asking Beta graduation ke baad kya soocha hai ?? (What are your plans after graduation my child ??) This question is not weird but since i have been placed in a company the only question that is annoying me nowadays is when is your joining ?? I don’t know why people are so interested in these things. Apart from this the regular distracting personalities to whom my life is compared you might have heard in hindi movies like sharmaji ka beta, verma ji ka beta…these guys have not left a single stone upturned for adding beautiful distraction elements in my life lol 😛   

Apart from this i even found my some friends who want some extra attention !! I am unable to get this thing that friendship doesn’t require any specific acknowledgment that one cares for other but if there is some space for such acknowledgement then its not friendship. You have to be connected but its not like that we have to always say that i trust you , i believe you, you are my friend etc. Its weird because a true friend is the only person that doesn’t need any specific permission for peeping in into your life, he is always available whenever you want and its a bond that is strengthen using amazing additional elements of trust , believe and understanding.

I have been watching TV and surfing the internet these days like i am on a mission to create a world record and ACP Pradyuman’s regular order Daya is darwaze ko todd do is still echoing in my mind. I have been saturated watching TV and internet because all my friends are now in their respective cities ie:they have shifted back to their respective houses back to their hometown and i am left alone. Even my two sisters both are working and both are even not living in my hometown. I have been a busy guy when i was studying engineering because i was so engrossed in my work, family and friends but eventually this sudden emptiness is killing me very badly nowadays.

Mere do anmol ratna #bestfriendsforever #awesomefriends #lastdayofcollege #engineeringlife

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In the pic my best friends Narayan and Mansi

But you have to move on everytime you feel a bit sad or depressed. Its just a timespan which according to me i need to spend without thinking so much because a bright and a happy future is soon gonna knock my door. After some days i have to enter that corporate world about which i have heard a lot of things. I am about to receive that joining mail which i have been waiting since quite a long time. So i just need to move on and enjoy these vacations because life is like a tender sapling which has to face every storm and bright shiny weather and beautiful aspects of nature that allows him to grow into a strong and firm tree.

Few wishes left uncomplete

So the timetable for the final semester has arrived and its time to start preparing for the examination.In the last semester nobody wishes to do anything whether it’s the sessional files,assignments and any other online or offline work. Its something like that we want to cherish every moment of our life and the last eight semesters we studied and enjoyed with our friends.

But every time i don’t know its matter of coincidence or anything else a very important work creeps in and i am out of the city left unanswered to my bunch of questions regarding why i can’t enjoy ?? I just wanna enjoy with my friends my last days of college but nonetheless work or the circumstances don’t allow me do so.

Whether it was the last month of my school life or now as few days of my college life are left i am out of the city. I really miss my school and every person related to my school life.My school its like a lifeline for me because whenever i am sad or super happy i really remember my school and every memory related to my school sends a tinge of energy and happiness to my spine and turns out the emotional turmoil in me….believe me its just wonderful 😀

Now as few days of my college life are left and i wanna enjoy every bit of it. College has taught a lot to me and has provided me a lot of inner strength to cope up various ups and downs in my life and a lot of memories are also related to it. Its a wonderful thing  when time and various circumstances teach u how to live up your life. Time and various circumstances are the best teachers and according to me everything around you teach something whether its moral values or anything else.

But as few wishes are left incomplete there is some small hollow space in my mind. From my school days i had a wish to receive official farewell from the authorities of my academic institutions like my college or school but things didn’t turn up and our batch was unable to receive the what so called official farewell and my wish was not fulfilled. We guys organized post farewell party in my school and what we also call batch party  in my college but again things didn’t turn up and i was unable to attend that party . However i am happy but a farewell wish is not that bad as according to me its the official way of saying Good Bye !! to our school or college .

Familiar tunes,unfamiliar languages 

Its more than 2 years that i started hearing songs of other languages that i am not familiar with or in other words i don’t understand them but i love the tunes, the melodies that get fixed in my mind every time I hear a song. It started when one of my school friend( although we are in college now) shared a song from the album Yuvvh called Nenjodu Cherthu . I thought i should at least hear it for at least ones. Then as I heard it , I felt in love with the tune of that song and it got stuck in my mind. It was awesome and i just loved it.

And then the journey begun and its my regular routine to hear more and more songs from various languages like Tamil , Telugu, Malayalam etc whenever i go to bed at night and wake up in the morning. My friends call me weird but i don’t care because its music that provide me the energy and power to live my life happily 🙂 After i hearing  excellent songs in other languages I really feel too good that Indian Cinema or Music is so vibrant and soul touching.There are many playlists in my music  player for every mood comprising songs of various genres and languages.

Everytime I thank god for creating music because music is such an awesome thing that can even make a depressed person smile .Tunes and melodies directly hit your soul and affects our senses and provide you the required energy, power and many more things. And for people who love music a new fantastic tune is a reason to party 😀